Just Say No

I watched the show Big Boss, and have heard the racist comments. They really made me irritated, and I wondered as how intolerant people can be. This is one thing which has always made me analyze. Can’t we be more tolerant? Can’t we put an end to racism? Can’t we just say no to racism? I wonder what has color or caste or creed got to do with the way we behave? Animals themselves do not have such criteria, then why should we men who have the sixth sense come up with such intolerance? I know there are many questions and each one might make you think on the gravity of the matter. We live in a world, where technology has made it a global village but we still stick to our old rules! I must say that education has made our minds to grow but our hearts are yet to grow.
It is time to erase such racist thoughts and embrace all people with the same love and care. I wish to see a world which will join hands in eradicating racism, just like how it has eradicated slavery! A better tomorrow lies in our no to racism.

I have discovered that no is one word which has a number of emotions associated with it. One among them is guilt. Any guesses where people feel guilty when they say no? This is predominant among working parents who hardly get time to spend with their children. As a result when the child demands for anything, the parents find themselves very guilty to tell no. But parenting requires one to be strict at times and there just can't be yes always. The problem here is that the parents spend very less time with children, and they fear that children may accuse them later and hence feel it is safer bet to give in to the demands. I wouldn't call such an activity as parenting, but would prefer to call it as business. I would suggest that parent's better stop feeling guilty and concentrate more on spending quality time with children. So be firm when you say no, and do not let your child accuse you!! In order to spend quality time, eat dinner together with your child and also ask the kid everyday to know what is happening in his school. All these will make the kid feel loved and cared. If the child cries when you do not give in to his demands, just leave the kid alone for sometime and do not pamper him at those times. After few more sobs, the child will learn that no just means no, and his cries will not alter it. So he won't try such tricks the next time. If you give in to his demands, when he cries, then you will be tricked for life!

Capital punishment is a very hot topic. There are humanitarian groups which prevent the capital punishment and there are a few more who would say that it is crime not to provide capital punishment to rapists, terrorist, murderers and such criminals. In this case, they mean a bullet for a bullet! But I strongly condemn such acts. I believe that criminals are made not born, so can't we remake or remodel them? I think the best punishment is to make them repent for their mistake and make them guilty. This is much better than killing them. Once they die, they will not know the pain of living with guilt which is more dreadful than capital punishment. I am not trying to be sadistic, but that is how guilt works. The other reason why I condemn capital punishment is that we must not act like barbarians but in a civilized manner. We do not have the right to put someone to death and it is better not to kill somebody in the name of capital punishment. I am against capital punishment, what about you? Don’t you think a person must repent and not die for his barbarous act? If you feel the same, then Just Say No to capital punishment.

I have spoken a lot about individual's right to say NO, even shared my special moment of NO and the NO which inspired my life. But I began thinking, if on the whole the world especially the governments had to say no, what could that be? Could they say no to war? Yeah, it would be wonderful! Imagine a world which is war free, it will be a new place to live in. In short one could call it as heaven, and nothing less. There would be no displaced families, no bombs, no peace pacts or talks and of course one does not have to worry about a bomb being dropped on them while they are asleep. There would be peace, a prevailing one all over the world. But in fact for it to work, there should be no greed nor jealousy nor any vices. If such be the case, then there will be no hatred. Am I dreaming too much?!! I know, that this is not going to be easy, but I can at least dream of a world which is free of hatred and wars, and comprises fully of smiles. I pray everyday that this dream of mine to live in harmony with all communities happens sooner.

There is a craze to look beautiful, and this craze has become a sort of obsession. Can anyone define beauty? All can't look like Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt, and must be satisfied with his looks. Initially though people cribbed, one did not have any other option other than cribbing. But times have changed and one can get under the knife to give a better look. I feel this is very immoral thing as it goes against the rules of nature. One can opt for such procedures if one meets with an accident but not always and especially not meant to look more beautiful. The other reason why I am against this is because some surgeries can cause a great damage to the health in the long run and thus is better to avoid them. I find that both men and women take up such operations with great enthusiasm, and I wonder from when are men bitten by this beauty bug?! It is important that we must enjoy what has been given to us, and not try to alter or play with it! If people go for tailor made or customized looks then I think the human race will be doomed for there must be something to curtail our greed and hunger for more!

I have already stated the four areas, where there should be a strict no from all the people. As I have already discussed about drugs, I will move on to the next topic, which is extra-marital bliss or in other words an affair. The word affair is a very hot and happening word and gives you attention for some time but for all wrong reasons. There could be many reasons why people get messed up in an affair, after marriage but one must remember that it is better to dissolve the marriage before getting into messy things. An affair not only affects the spouse but also the children. I believe children in divorced homes do far better than children coming from these families. And if you thought it was okay to have an affair, when you are already committed then dear fellows it is equally wrong! A marriage or commitment comes with a responsibility, and an affair mean you are taking steps to avoid the responsibility. Love has its respect and an affair spoils it.
In most of the cases, an affair happens due to momentary pleasure and many repent after getting into one. This has not spared even celebrities and they seem to get entangled more than often! In order to spare yourself from all this trouble, Just Say No to an affair!

Each one of us tells No, many number of times! I wondered what was the best moment and when did I enjoy telling no the most. This happened just some two months back, and I remember each moment as though it happened just now. I had attend a wedding and the guess what was the topic of discussion? Did you think it must have been about the bride or groom? Then you are wrong, it was about my hair. Everybody except me, felt that I needed a new style. I did not want to experiment but all my friends thought I began to look boring in the old style. My girl who never comments on such things, began suggesting I must seriously consider a new hair style. I began to wonder why were they so smitten with my hair?!

I believe about 10 people were suggesting that I go to the saloon for a new trendy hair style. I simply said no, and I drove the car to the shop to get a suit. I do not know why I felt great when I said no, maybe because I felt I was over powering 10 people with my decision. But I knew I felt happy, for I simply did what I wanted.